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| The article below appeared in the August 2007 edition of The Connection - the newsletter of the Creekside Evangelical Free Church of Merced. |
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TICKED?
As a passenger boarded the Los Angeles-to-New York plane, he
told the flight attendant to wake him and make sure he got off in
Dallas. The passenger awoke just as the
plane was landing in New York. Furious, he
called the flight attendant and demanded an explanation.
The attendant mumbled an apology and, in a rage, the
passenger stomped off the plane.
“Boy, was he ever mad!” another crew member
observed to her errant colleague.
Anger is an easy emotion for all of us to tap into. The sources of our anger are varied: A perceived loss of control, factors affecting
our values, memories of events and experiences from our past...
Anger, as an emotional state, can
range from mild irritation to an intense rage. Often,
when we’re angry we change physically: our
blood pressure goes up, our adrenaline begins to flow.
The Apostle
Paul writes, “Be angry and yet do not sin” (Ephesians 4:4).
Anger can lead to sinful behavior - actions and attitudes
which are destructive to us and to others - which are against the will
of God. Will Rogers said, “Whenever
you fly into a rage, you seldom make a safe landing.”
A man once tried to rationalize his
angry outbursts. “There’s nothing wrong with losing my
temper,” He said. “I blow up, and then it’s all
over.”
“So does a shotgun,” came the reply, “and
look at the damage it leaves behind!”
The Bible teaches us that there is
anger which can lead us to acts of righteousness. Perhaps
the most familiar is Jesus driving out those who had made the Temple
into a place of shady business rather than a place of prayer (Mark
11:15-17). Strange as it may seem, God has
blessed us with the ability to be angry.
However,
seldom, when I am warming up to a good fit of anger, do I think about
the differences between “destructive” and “righteous” anger.
Perhaps the best proactive approach to anger is retroactive. Trying to understand what it is that we are
angry about and why.
Spending time away from the
intensity of the moment - even physically removing ourselves from the
situation - gives us the opportunity to see our emotion and its source
with greater clarity. Sometimes this may
mean talking through things with someone who can give us an objective
perspective on what we’re feeling. It is
really helpful to understand “what” taps into our reservoir of anger so
that we can take control of the emotion before it takes control of us.
One of the
most helpful things I have found in dealing with anger is to take my
introspection to God in prayer. I have
found that God desires to help me understand the source of my anger and
how best to deal with situations which lead me to an angry response.
My prayers can go something like this, “ God, I’m really
ticked and I don’t know why. Help me to
understand what’s going on.” “God, help me to calm down and
to understand how you want me to respond.” Or, this really
tough prayer, “God, what is it that this anger is showing me about
myself that you want to deal with?” Sometimes a simple, “HELP!”
is also effective in getting me into a place where I am looking to God
to do His work in my life.
Placing our lives and situations in God’s hands means that
He can use our anger to help us grow closer to Him, to eliminate
destructive behavior, to stand up to injustice, and even to serve Him. With God, we do not need to be bound by anger
but we can grow through it.
The next time you feel angry take
that anger to God and see what He does with it.
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